Synergy Milestones Study

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Synergy Newsletter: October 14

Synergy is meeting again on Sunday mornings this fall  at 9am in rm 402-3.  This class will focus on family dynamics and the church to equip and guide parents and others in raising their family in biblical truth.  What does a Christian household really look like?  Is my family spiritually healthy?  What resources are available through T.L.C.C. and the community?  Each milestone in raising a child is different and the culture we live in provides challenges that we must be aware of in order to properly model, mentor, and mirror Christ-like lives to our children and others around us.  Please join us on Sunday mornings as we cover five milestones that embrace every stage and age of spiritual growth and help you answer these questions.  (Coming to individual sessions that apply to your family situation is welcomed.)

Synergy Milestones Promo Page: New Synergy Promo 2016 (last updated 1.23.16)

Discipleship Assessment Postcard Discipleship Assessment 2015

Synergy Milestones PowerPoint Presentation: Synergy New Milestones #1 – #5 (last updated 10.6.14)

Synergy Milestones Study Sheets:Synergy Milestone study Sheets 10.6.14 (DD) (last updated 8.4.15)

Synergy Videos:

A milestone is an age or level of maturity in lives that can and should be celebrated with spiritual preparation and achievement. Our goal is to provide parents a clear view of tools through which they can be assured that they are discipling their kids through these milestones into Christ.  The goal is that the family and the church are perceived as working together and certainly not against each other.

  1. Discipleship   (click to see our Pinterest page of resources)
    1. Rom. 10:17; Heb. 5:11-6:3; 9:14; 2 Pet. 1:5-11; 1 Cor. 8:12; 1 Tim. 4:2
    2. • Your children can not commit to that which you and they have not _thought_ through, seen _modeled_and _practiced_.
      • Basics first, then _practice_, teach more and _discern_.
      • Embrace the _conscience_, _consequences_ and _grace_.
      •  _Comprehension_, transformation, _commitment_ and then progressive _growth_.
  2. Early Years  (click to see our Pinterest page of resources)
    1. Ps. 73; Mat. 19:13,14 ; Jer. 1:5 ; Pr. 13:24 ; Pr. 22:9; Ps. 127:3-5; Ps. 139:13-16
    2. • Children are a _gift_from God not a “_product_” of two people’s love.
      • Parents are to be teachers and _models_ of _responsibility_ not _friends_ to their children.
      • Consistency and discipline _early_ based on _wisdom_ from God and advice from other successful parents promotes balance & peace.
  3. Teens  (click to see our Pinterest page of resources)
    1. Lk. 2:41-50; Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21; Pr. 14:12; 23:13-14; Jer. 29:11; 1 Kgs. 1:6; 1 Sam. 3:13-14 ; 1 Jn. 1:9
    2. • It is natural for youth to begin seeking their own _purpose_and writing their own _stories_.
      • Discipline without exasperation is dependent on _attention_, _consistency_ and _integrity_ from the parents.
      •  Using consequences rather than punishment to define behaviors provides a balanced perspective of _fear_, _hope_, _repentance_ & _forgiveness_.
    4. Teen Resources: #3 Teen Info (1)
  4. Supporting Adulthood  (click to see our Pinterest page of resources)
    1. 1 Thess. 5:21; 2 Cor. 13:1; Mt. 26:31-45; Jn. 21:14-17; Mt. 25:14-30; Mk. 1:35-38; Jas. 2:14-17; 1 Cor. 6:12; Eccl. 4:12; Heb. 5:11-14; Lk. 6:46-48; 1 Jn. 4:1
    2. _Sabbath_, stewardship, _balance_, priorities, _networks_ and action provide our greatest tools as productive adults.  Understanding _accountability, practicing _discernment_ and embracing spiritual _authority_ will assure success.
  5. Legacy  (click to see our Pinterest page of resources)
    1. Eccl. 3:1-11; Gal. 6:9; Titus 2:2-4; Eccl. 12; Mk. 8:36
      • The different _seasons_ have their _challenges_and _opportunities_. Learn them and make the most of them!
      • God will provide fruit for those who _trust_ & _obey_.
      • Re-establishing _priorities_ and teaching others revive _purpose_ .
      • Maturity is the art of _giving_ _up_ that which we want most to receive that which we _need_ most.

A class offered to the public at T.L.C.C. on Sunday mornings 9am in the Fall

We intend to bring Bible content, internet and book resources to anyone (couples or individuals) interested in strengthening their family in Christ.  You may choose to attend the two sessions for an individual milestone.  These sessions are one way TLCC attempts to equip families to raise children that progressively own their faith and develop as responsible adults with a Christian worldview.  Our hope is that we will help you when so that when you are a Sr. adult you will look back on life with confidence, joy and fewer regrets.

WHO is invited:  The public is invited targeting young families that will likely feel anxious about raising their children in a biblical manner.

WHO is teaching/leader:  Cheryl Botkins will facilitate the study integrating video presentations, guest speakers and discussion oriented Bible studies.  The Biblical foundations of each Milestone will be introduced first and then guest speakers from our church and community will follow up with personal perspectives and practical suggestions.   Five 2-3 week cycles of each Milestone will run in the Fall.

 WHY this class:  To provide interested families resources and understanding regarding questions they have about raising up Godly children.

WHERE: in classroom 405 at T.L.C.C.

 WHAT are the Milestones and topics that will be discussed:

#1 “Discipleship” – Learning and Commitment: Guiding parents with resources designed to help desire a greater level of commitment including Baptism into Christ. [a period of development and decision]


Legacy Video – “On Graduating from this Life

#2 “Early Years” -Prenatal thru Early Childhood: Resources that will support and encourage parents of young children. [the age of discovery & security]

  • Prenatal issues
  • Theories/principles on spiritual development
  • Childbirth options
  • Nursery and preschool selection
  • Starting family traditions
  • Discipline theory and dynamics
  • Early childhood assessments
  • Home/family changes
  • Developing healthy family culture and childhood experiences
  • Education options/priorities
  • Responsibility development: chores, rewards, allowance (stewardship)
  • Mom/Dad the value of unique roles

#3 “Teens” -Adolescence can be tough! Resources to help parents and their youth develop spiritual disciplines and embrace upcoming adulthood. [developing spiritual patterns & life habits]  (Milestone #3 Lesson Video FA-13)

  • Identifying authority issues: defiance vs. ignorance
  • Dating vs. courting discussions
  • Hygiene and organization habits
  • The value of mentors/disciple groups
  • Identity
  • Picking your battles
  • The power of “culture”: its ability to create stability and cause chaos
  • Apologetics for the teenage mind
  • Friendships
  • Technology
  • College Visits/Career exploration
  • Financial responsibilities
  • Family culture in transition (an innate desire to be an adult, the fight for independence)
  • Personality development
  • Mom/Dad the value of unique roles

#4 ” Supporting Adulthood” -Relationships and responsibility: Resources to encourage networking, accountability, refinement and balance in the life and spiritual growth of adults. [depth, outreach, refinement] (Milestone #4 Lesson Video FA-13)

  • Apologetics for the adult
  • Discipleship (being mentored & mentoring others)
  • Spiritual formation
  • Selecting a church
  • Contentment and Sacrifice
  • The value of small groups and good friendships
  • Unique characteristics of the different generations
  • Career/Responsibility development
  • Financial priorities/Preparing for Retirement
  • Refinement/Preparing for Failure
  • Leadership development
  • Professional vs. friendship principles and boundaries
  • Emotional health
  • Pre-Marriage Counseling
  • Finding professional services: counselor, lawyer, doctor
  • Relocating to another community
  • Discipleship (mentoring others)
  • Choosing a new career
  • Divorce/remarriage
  • Support/Study Groups: Grief Share, Celebrate Recovery, Divorce Recovery, NAMI, Financial Peace University
  • Insurance options and priorities
  • Aging parents: challenges and rewards
  • Mom/Dad the value of unique roles

#5 “Legacy” – Changes and opportunities: Resources to support spiritual growth through later years, leaving a solid foundation for your family. [assessments, inspiration] (Milestone #5 Lesson Video FA-13)

  • Empty nest
  • Relocating to another community
  • Discipleship (mentoring others)
  • Grand parenting -a grandparents prayer Ruby
  • Choosing a new career
  • Death/hospice/grief & hope
  • Chronic illness & care-giving
  • Preparing for retirement
  • Mom/Dad the value of unique roles
  • Legacy Video

Additional Studies: Model, Mentor & Mirror

Questions we want to address:

  1. How do you recognize  that one of our youth is within this milestone’s influences/pressures?
  2. What are some of the most significant influences and pressures for the good… for the bad?
  3. What are some common mistakes parents make when children are in this phase?
  4. What are some of the mistakes you have seen churches make while kids are in this stage of life?
  5. What are some indicators that children and/or parents are growing spiritually through this Milestone?
  6. What are some indicators that children and/or parents are regressing spiritually through this Milestone?
  7. Do you have any ideas you would like parents and ministers to consider implementing to support individuals/families through this milestone?
  8. Do you have any website resources/ recommendations that might be posted on the Synergy Pinterst page for this Milestone?



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